Relationships

7 Ways Men Can Choose Better Partners

Choose better

“She should’ve chose better.” Everyone’s heard this admonishment at some point, aimed at women who have unfortunate encounters with f*ckboys. All the blame lands squarely on her because she should’ve known better, right? Yet we don’t admonish men with that same energy. So in the spirit of being fair, I’ve compiled a list of suggestions based on the things I hear cishet men complain about most. If you’re a man interested in how to choose better, start here:

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Fear, Friendship & Emotional Labor: Using Girlfriends To Do The Work

Emotional labor

So much of the discussion around emotional labor that women do revolves around the labor we do for men. It’s not an unfounded discussion. I can rattle off names of men whose lives my labor has enhanced. I can just as easily rattle off names of other women who’ve done the same for other men. There is no question that women provide invaluable emotional labor for men.

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Spoiler Alert: “Good Men” Don’t Exist

Good men don't exist

“Where are all the good men?” The search for the elusive “good man” is entertaining to me. It’s a trick question. “Good men” don’t exist and the sooner we all grasp that, the better we’ll all be for it.

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30 and Unmarried: One of my Greatest Accomplishments

If you’re familiar with me at all then by now you know I love travel and life abroad in general. So naturally, I stay plotting on how to live, work, eat and go into hiding from the student loan people abroad. One day I found myself in conversation with a male friend about an overseas job opportunity. “I think you should stay in the U.S.,” he said, “for my own selfish reasons.”

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